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People can be very confusing at times. In my archaeology class the syllabus indicates that students were supposed to read the first chapter of our textbook over the course of the past week, and prior to today's lecture I had gone through everything in chapter one as well as the majority of chapter two. During class today our professor introduced several new concepts and frequently added "which you should have read about in your textbook" at the end of his sentences.

Yuka, a girl who was in my linguistic anthropology class last semester and who sits next to me in archaeology, asked if all the information we discussed today was in the first chapter and I could only tell her that, if it was, I certainly didn't remember any of it. I checked once I made it home later in the afternoon and found that the material covered in class was actually a combination of things from chapters two, three, and four. Our first exam is on the 27th; I wonder if I should have the first half of the book read by then, just in case.

I was planning to study at the university library tonight but they close at 5:45 on Friday, so I'm in the student union building instead. It's much too noisy at our house to concentrate on reading, and while grabbing a bite to eat before heading out the door rurisue took the time to tell me about how frustrated she gets with the general upkeep of our house. However, using absolutes like "nobody", "ever", and "always" to describe what does or doesn't get done in the way of cleaning makes me feel defensive despite the fact that I have absolutely no reason to be guilty over my own actions.

As a communications major I would think she'd be more aware of the language she uses, but perhaps my standards are too high? It's strange to hear about how everyone always leaves their stuff out despite the fact that the only things not in my room are my food and a pair of shoes I keep by the front door; meanwhile her boyfriend can come over and leave books, papers, dirty dishes, and food laying out all over the living room and kitchen and she has no problem picking up after him. I would describe the situation as laughable if it wasn't so annoying at the same time.

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samedi
Jan. 15th, 2006 03:18 am (UTC)
That was part of my problem - it's unfair for a person to generalize things or people when there are obvious exceptions to what they're saying. Additionally, this is coming from a person who complains about how she's pretty much better than everyone else who lives in our house despite the fact that I frequently see her do the same things she hates so much in others. It must be hard being perfect ...
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samedi
Jan. 16th, 2006 07:13 am (UTC)
Not in those exact words, but it never takes much imagination to realize that's what she means. =/
evergreenheart
Jan. 16th, 2006 04:25 pm (UTC)
do the same things she hates so much in others. It must be hard being perfect ...

hmmm...why did you mention being perfect...? I guess I want to know how you picked up a relationship between being perfect and doing the same things that someone hates in others...
samedi
Jan. 16th, 2006 08:54 pm (UTC)
The reference to being perfect comes from her phrasing; when she's complaining about a situation rurisue always seems to phrase it in terms of how another person is deficient rather than accepting that it might be due to other reasons or that she could be at fault as well. For example, before the winter break I heard the following: our electrical bill was really high, so you guys need to stop wasting electricity ... which (1) places the blame on others without including herself and (2) ignores the possibility that other factors could have influenced our bill.

I think my point - unstated in the comment - was that it isn't just that she does things she hates in others but that she also sees herself as blameless at the same time. It seems hypocritical, but I don't think she has any inner qualms about being in such a position.
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